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Secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant — and what it means.
How much you worry about closeness, and how comfortable you are with it.
Why you react the way you do when someone gets close — or pulls away.
Practical steps toward calmer, more trusting relationships.
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How much you worry about rejection, abandonment and whether you're loved.
How comfortable you are with emotional closeness and depending on others.
You feel comfortable with closeness and trust that the people you love will be there. You can depend on others — and let them depend on you.
You love deeply and want to be close, but you often worry about whether others feel the same. You may need extra reassurance to feel safe.
You value independence and self-reliance. You're comfortable on your own and may feel uneasy when others get too close or depend on you.
You want closeness but also fear getting hurt. You may find yourself pulled toward people and then pulling away when things get serious.
You get two scores. Anxiety shows how much you worry about rejection and closeness. Avoidance shows how uncomfortable you feel depending on others. Low on both means secure, high anxiety means anxious, high avoidance means avoidant, and high on both means fearful-avoidant.
Scores near the middle are common and mean you lean one way only some of the time. Attachment styles can change, especially through steady relationships and self-reflection. If past relationships still weigh on you, a qualified therapist can help.
Attachment theory began with the British psychiatrist John Bowlby, who argued in the 1950s and 1960s that the bond between children and their caregivers shapes how we handle closeness and separation. The American-Canadian psychologist Mary Ainsworth later observed infants and described distinct patterns of attachment.
In 1987, psychologists Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver showed that adults show similar patterns in romantic relationships. In 1991, Kim Bartholomew and Leonard Horowitz proposed four adult styles: secure, preoccupied (anxious), dismissing (avoidant) and fearful.
Today, researchers usually measure attachment on two scales: anxiety (worry about rejection) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness). Your position on these two scales describes your style. Styles aren't fixed — supportive relationships and self-awareness can help people become more secure.
This test uses 32 original statements written for TestMyPsyche, balanced across both scales. It's for self-reflection, not a clinical assessment. If past relationships or trauma weigh on you, a qualified therapist can help.
Secure, anxious (also called preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive) and fearful-avoidant (sometimes called disorganized). They come from how much you worry about rejection and how comfortable you are with closeness.
Yes. Attachment styles can shift over time, especially through stable, supportive relationships, self-reflection and therapy. Many people move toward security as adults.
No style makes you a bad partner. Each developed for a reason. Knowing yours simply helps you understand your reactions and communicate better.
Not always. You might feel secure with friends but anxious with partners, for example. This test looks at your general tendencies.
That's common and usually means you lean fairly secure, with some anxious or avoidant tendencies in certain situations.
No. It's for self-reflection and entertainment. For personal concerns about relationships or mental health, please talk to a qualified professional.
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