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Conflict Style Test

How do you handle disagreements? Discover your main conflict style out of five, with tips for calmer, fairer arguments.

  • 📝 25 questions
  • ⏱️ 5 min
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What you'll learn

  • Your main conflict style

    Competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding or accommodating.

  • All five scores

    How much you use each style, not just your top one.

  • Relationships and work

    How your style helps — and where it can backfire.

  • Practical tips

    Simple ways to handle disagreements more calmly and fairly.

How the test works

  1. Answer 25 questions

    It takes about 5 minutes. Go with your first instinct: there are no right or wrong answers.

  2. Get your results instantly

    Your answers are scored right in your browser. You get a clear chart and a plain explanation of what it means.

  3. Save or share

    Keep your result with a free account or send a link to friends. You don't need to sign up to take the test.

What this test measures

  • Competing

    Standing firm for your own view or goal. Assertive, not very cooperative.

  • Collaborating

    Working together on a solution that fully meets both sides' needs.

  • Compromising

    Meeting in the middle, where each side gives a little.

  • Avoiding

    Stepping back, postponing or sidestepping the disagreement.

  • Accommodating

    Giving the other person what they want to keep the peace.

Possible results

  • The Competitor

    Your main conflict style is competing. You stand up for your views, speak your mind and aren't afraid of a strong debate.

  • The Collaborator

    Your main conflict style is collaborating. You look beneath the surface to find a solution that works fully for everyone.

  • The Compromiser

    Your main conflict style is compromising. You look for fair middle ground so everyone gets something and can move on.

  • The Avoider

    Your main conflict style is avoiding. You tend to step back from disagreements, wait for them to cool down or let them pass.

  • The Accommodator

    Your main conflict style is accommodating. You often put the other person's wishes first to keep the relationship smooth.

How to read your results

You get a score from 0 to 100 for each of the five conflict styles, and your highest score is your main style. Scores of 60 or more show a style you use often; 40 or less, one you rarely use.

Most people use two or three styles depending on the situation and the person, so look at your whole profile. No style is always best — the skill is choosing the right one for the moment, and your results include tips for doing that.

About the method

This test is based on a well-known model of conflict that describes two things you balance in every disagreement: how much you care about your own goals (assertiveness) and how much you care about the other person and the relationship (cooperation). The idea grew out of work by Robert Blake and Jane Mouton in the 1960s and was developed into five conflict-handling modes by Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann in the 1970s.

Combining the two gives five styles: competing (high assertiveness, low cooperation), accommodating (the opposite), avoiding (low in both), collaborating (high in both) and compromising (in the middle). No style is always best — each one fits some situations better than others, and most people use several.

This test has 25 original statements written for TestMyPsyche. It isn't affiliated with any official conflict assessment. It's for self-reflection, not a professional or clinical evaluation.

Frequently asked questions

What are the five conflict styles?

Competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding and accommodating. They describe different balances between standing up for your own goals and caring about the other person.

What is the best conflict style?

There isn't one. Collaborating often works well for important issues, but compromising is useful under time pressure, and avoiding can be wise when tempers are high. Skilled people switch styles to fit the situation.

Can my conflict style change?

Yes. Conflict styles are habits, not fixed traits. They can change with practice, experience and the people and situations you're in.

Why do I use different styles with different people?

That's very common. Many people compete at work but accommodate with family, or avoid conflict with a boss but speak up with friends.

How long does the test take?

About 5 minutes for 25 statements.

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